A time to pick up the pieces

It’s been a while since I wrote my last column piece.  Was it a self-imposed hiatus?  Maybe.  However, in spite of what I would like to call it, it was indeed something I needed to do.

It may have been a great year for most of you, however 2011 was a challenging year for me.  So many things have transpired in my life over the months that were; that I wonder how I even made it through the year-end.

And while there are still a lot of pieces up in the air, there are those that have fallen to the ground waiting to be picked up.  And yes, there is a time to pick up the pieces and move on with my life.

And while my life will never be the way it was, picking up the pieces is key in order to move forward.  As such, I’ve enumerated some points to help you pick up the pieces and move on with life.


Stop putting the blame on other people.  Acknowledging your shortcoming is the best first step in being able to pick up the pieces of your life.  It also makes it easier for the people around you to accept who you are and what you’ve done.


You’ve probably hurt the people you love i.e. such as family members, friends, girlfriend, and boyfriend, aunts, uncles and cousins.  Apologizing and owning to your actions will not let you off the hook easily.  However, apologizing makes it easier for the other person to forgive.

Be sincere

People can sniff and spot a fake apology most of the time.  Being sincere about your actions make it easier for your to pick up the pieces.  This is important if you still want to be friends with the friends your have.

Let it go

There are so many things in life that need your attention.  How can you give them your time of day if you’re still holding on to a disappointing part of your past?

Live a full life

Don’t wait for someone to hold your hand if you want to live a full life.  You can do this on your own.  Remember, though, that you can only truly live a full life when you are ready to do so.  No one can force you to enjoy the life you have.

Life changes do happen.  Just remember that there is a time to grieve, a time to cry and a time to pick up the pieces.


Paco Arespacochaga is a musician/songwriter for the award winning band Introvoys (www.introvoys.net). He runs his own media company, 2heaven Media ( www.2heavenmedia.com).  He is also a husband, a father and a friend. Read more of his thoughts by going to www.pacoarespacochaga.com and send him an email at  pacointhehouse@gmail.com

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