Asian Journal- The Filipino-American Community Newspaper

Fathers, who grew up in the Philippines, have their hands full when raising their children in the US.

The differences of their own upbringing – in a traditional environment and way of life in the Philippines – compared to that of UScultural ideologies have some Filipino dads pulling their hair off while other Pinoy fathers embrace the differences in child parenting.

"Raising your child in the Philippines and raising your kid here in the is very different," said Bert Jaurigue, whose son was born and raised in the US. "In the US, kids tend to be more independent than those back home [in the Philippines]."

"While in the Philippines, children are more respectful to their parents than kids here," he added.

Jaurigue arrived to the when he was 17-years-old. He recalls while he was growing up in San Pablo City, he was taught that the world revolved around whatever his parents decided.

"It’s like your more restricted growing up in the Philippines," he said. "You always have to wait for your parents approval and decision…opposed to a child here in the US, where from a young age they can pretty much make their own decision."

In the Philippines, if you’re parents tell you the sky is green, you believe it’s green, added June Adorable.

"Even if you know the sky is blue, it’s still green because of them," said

Adorable brought his two children to the in 1986. His son was 13 and daughter, 7, when they arrived.

Adorable said that it was an eye opening experience when he saw his children’s attitude change as they became more assimilated to American culture.

"They were more childish when they were growing up and they were very obedient in the Philippines," he said. "When they got here, let’s just say, they became very independent."

And Adorable quickly found this out himself.

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Marvin  - Fatherhood in the Philippines is evolving too   |121.96.102.xxx |2009-11-28 14:34:42 It is interesting to read about the struggle of Pinoy Dads in raising kids in the US. Thanks for the post. I haven't been to the US. All my life I've stayed in the Philippines, though in different places at certain times. I was born in a southern province, grew up in another southern province, and now I live with my wife and kids in Metro Manila. The days when kids believe everything the parents say is changing. Kids are more intelligent than they seem. Besides, democracy is taking root. Kids can now ask questions and parents better give good answers. Reason, my friend. Not intimidation. At least that's my experience. I'm enjoying it. In fact, I advocate raising kids that way and I write a blog about it: http://www.raisingfilipinoboys.com Reply | Quote 0   0

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